Energy Flow (Push-Pull) of Monadic & Split Souls

To our conditioned minds, these connections often seem completely illogical and impractical, and regardless of how much you try to "think" your way to a solution to your unique situation, there's no way to override the universal energetic laws of physics that play out. A Monadic Soul connection is a single energy unit (cosmic egg) that splits its unified consciousness, as it descends through the 12 lowest dimensions, into a masculine and feminine polarity. As human beings, the incarnation of the physical body marks the continuation of the shared over-soul's (Monad) journey towards ascension and graduation of "Earth school". The "solution" to balancing out the circumstances that follow with this level of soul awakening is... SOUL.

Stabilizing the energy field within a polarized soul-to-soul connection like Monadic or Split Souls

The energy flow works as traditionally/stereo-typically resembled by nature's two biological genders, however the assignment of energy polarities and roles within Monadic & Split Soul connections are not gender-specific. Collectively, everybody has feminine and masculine energies, but the role and dominating polarity assigned to you varies greatly depending on each pair. For Monadics, the masculine counterpart (either a male or female) follows the feminine's energy pole (carried in the opposite sex) ~ essentially a plus pole flowing towards its minus, like a battery.

Monadic physical body polarization as Man vs Woman

To answer this, I prefer using astrology, simply because nothing escapes astrology, regardless of how much you may love or hate this energy language. You can clearly tell the markers for determining biological genders of Monadic Souls when you have the complete (x2) astrological pieces of the puzzle. And yes, Monadics are ALWAYS man and woman due to the nature of the polarization rulers. Every sign's ruler always has a masculine and feminine counterpart (like Aquarius & Capricorn ~ Saturn, Gemini & Virgo ~ Mercury, Pisces & Sagittarius ~ Jupiter etc.). These energies and signs are like the male and female versions of their shared over-lord / over-soul ruler. 

Split Souls - any combination of body polarity

With Split Souls, the polarization is based on opposition and conjunctions between Greater and Lesser Masculine (ie. Leo-DM vs Aquarius-DF, Capricorn-DM vs Cancer-DF). Therefore you can potentially have two women (Water, feminine & Earth, masculine) or two men (Fire, masculine & Air, feminine) being divine counterparts, just like we see queer couples everywhere in society. The energetic relationship of Split Souls is the same as the generic astral principles that apply to everyone (including Monadics). Monadics, however, are polarized all throughout the 12 lower density dimensions, whereas Split Souls are polarized thru the first 6 dimensions (ie. Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus and Mars energies). The polarization accuracy is near-perfect through most of the dimensions, creating an equally near-perfect mirroring, but you will see the foundation (for example via Moon to Moon ~ shared sacral/heart chakra, or Sun to Mars ~ 5d vs 3d consciousness) being literally 100% perfect in precision, to the extend that some astrological measurements can't even get it perfectly right considering the enormous extend of the measurements of planetary orbits/positions etc.

Should the DF/5d polarity counterpart pursue his/her other self?

The whole point of this "connection" is not to "pursue", but to ascend/awaken. Energetically, the two human entities are linked as one, so it's the mind focus on pursuit that becomes one of the obstacles in actually physically uniting the two human bodies. As a DF/5d male counterpart, I find the aspect of pursuing a state of physical union not necessarily difficult to obtain. The portion for me that is difficult to handle is the energy balancing, especially as a man who is naturally more inclined to do the opposite (ie. the pursuing). Two human beings, regardless of being divine counterparts or not, can... YES, "hook up" anytime they both desire to. However, without a balanced energetic connection, you'd be witnessing more of "a lucky one-night/day" rather than a long-term solidified connection. You can hang out with your counterpart, without necessarily gaining anything whatsoever. The energies sometimes allow for major progress, other times, for major setbacks, but the key is that the setbacks are always 1 step back - 2 steps forward, which is another key thing to remember on this journey. So the progress lies mainly in the energetic aspect, which directly leads to an upgrade of the shared vibration which creates mutual harmony and energy flow. Especially in separation, the majority of the energy work is done, as separation is a state of mind, not a state of singular soul (where the divine counterparts are one, and always "together").

How does the connection become unbalanced and how is separation created? 

When the feminine (negative) polarity reverts her/his energy towards positive (ie. masculine) and starts chasing or over-pursuing the positive polarity, more than he/she pursues himself/herself (the negative pole), the energies slowly (or immediately, if it's very skewed...) start to repel like two same-polarity battery poles held up against each other - they will not come together in a stable configuration no matter how hard you "try". The masculine counterpart then slowly starts focusing entirely on him/herself and 3d circumstances. Energetic balance comes through the DF/5d counterpart embodying him/herself as the shared soul/over-soul itself, instead of identifying and living from the temporary desire-based ego-mind. This is the light that empowers the masculine to come towards his/her feminine in the 3d realm, if he/she desires to (there's always the ego-mind and individual conditioning aspect to overcome for any counterpart). It's important to mention, you don't have to be "healed" to create inner union, or physical union with your counterpart. You have to learn and accept that you are a beautiful and powerful divine being/soul who knows no limitations in terms of potential. The layers of distortion are applied to the aspects of your mind such as your emotional pain body. You are not your emotional pain, or your past failures. You are only truly, in the NOW.

My own experience (2021-2025)

Personally, I had a really hard time letting go of this traditionally gender-based pursuit, since I am conditioned to never give up, and through that determination have overcome most major obstacles in my life thus far. The surrender, however, is what creates inner peace, and after continued and disciplined soul work, ultimately inner union. The masculine polarity is here to 3rd dimensionally mirror the inner circumstances of 5d-soul within the 5d/DF polarity counterpart. My own approach to remain sane and balanced within this intense soul journey is to stay in soul, as much as I can. I spend much time on my own, nurturing, loving and working on my inner self, and then embrace social and musical interactions to the fullest in the external. If the masculine polarity does not physically reflect that state of consciousness, by coming towards you in some capacity after running/avoiding you, then your soul work or state of mind / energy is in need of an upgrade. Perhaps you are living in separation consciousness. Well, separation is an illusion as your counterpart is you. That is the fact, regardless of how hard it is to "believe". Therefore, talking about "pursuit" is really pointless. It's about two poles (yin and yang) merging as a result of the shared consciousness aligning to create a reflection in the 3d dimension where a state of physically meeting / union becomes possible. The feminine is operating at the creator level for the pair, and the masculine shows the physically manifested result of that... keeping in mind that the individual obstacles of the two separate ego-minds also need to be "surrendered", therefore it is vital to respect and treat your counterpart with care. This fact is not always mutually recognized, especially by the 3d/masculine counterpart who can - seemingly -  tend to lack behind in vibration, perhaps due to their role, their energies and what they have experienced in the amplified 3rd dimensionally focused imprinting. Nonetheless, they are not here to hurt you, in fact quite the opposite - they are here to help you ascend/awaken to the most authentic version of yourself.

The shared energy field

The energy system as a whole is not a state of two. The counterparts are ONE shared energy field that each needs to anchor in an inner balance, and learn to maintain a higher vibration to compensate for the individual wounding and conditioning that each person has undergone in this life, AND... through countless of other lives too. The Divine Feminine/5d counterpart usually goes first in that "ascension" process of soul over mind, and anchors inner union through self-love, healthy detachment, 3d detoxification and forgiving and embracing him/herself fully. This inner union mutually allows the counterparts to feel their own and opposite polarity of the shared heart chakra more authentically which leads to gradual soul merging in the 3rd shared energy when both counterparts have fully surrendered. The DM/3d counterpart's energy is aimed at working on themselves especially at the level of mind, experiencing and executing the over-soul vibration in the physical realms, where the DF is to "soul experience" the over-soul vibration in the energetic realms by fully embodying the over-soul frequency, instead of being controlled by their conditioned ego-mind which often is in conflict with the inherent soul and/or over-soul frequency. They both will raise their vibration to the extend that they can come together at a healthy, natural level of interaction driven by an unconditional state of love flowing from the heart chakra.

Lower vibrations

Lower vibrations are of the opposite territory to soul (coming from the ego-mind) and creates an energetic wall of polarization between the two separate physical beings, and therefore the polarized 5d-souls as well. So any environment, relationship, "situationship" or other 3rd party influence that lowers your vibration more than raising it is a direct hindrance for the abundance of your soul, and therefore your Monadic or Split Soul connection too. Even higher level soulmates can become an obstacle, due to karma etc., but these usually come with profound important life lessons that you should not necessarily avoid. After all, things "happen" for a reason. Also, don't forget, lower vibrations are completely normal for all of us - our human selves. The goal is to minimize the scale/degree of fluctuation. This makes divine counterparts, who often trigger each other a lot, able to get along regardless of their individual ego conditioning, opinions and beliefs. All beings can agree, to disagree. 

How does it feel when the energy system is unstable/unbalanced?

The experience for either counterpart is not pleasant as they share the same energy system. The masculine polarity "acts/reacts" based on the current vibration. As the feminine polarity, you choose how to energetically lead and balance the energy vibration. You can approach it from love, harmony, sex, jealousy, you name it... Anything you choose, is reacted / acted upon from your masculine counterpart. Commonly, the DF/5d counterpart gradually excels in energy work due to their role and energy make up so it's easier for them to  internally transmute negative/lower vibrational energies. This is their role, as they are the spiritual counterpart. However, communication errors, misunderstandings, misleading 3rd party information, other people's opinions, your mixed emotions and just life in general, can often make the path of navigating this challenging on an every day basis. At a peak time of energetic instability, which usually means the DF/5d is reaching outside of themselves/their soul, the DM/3d counterpart will do anything they can to get away from you, come up with bad excuses, hurt your/their feelings, "break your/their heart", cross any boundaries you may have defined to test you, and if they need to, take whatever action is necessary for you to let go of them. Sounds a bit like a toxic relationship, right? Well, to our ego-minds, it can often seem that way for periods of time, until the feminine polarity learn to let go and live fully from heart & soul so the energy field stabilizes. It's not that the DF/5d or DM/3d counterpart is toxic in nature - Monadic Souls are generally high vibrational powerful souls - it's just that "soul energy" fluctuating between two poles in close proximity is very hard to handle when you are new to it, and especially when surrounded by lower vibrations filtered through a more or less wounded, unobserved mind. Both counterparts (the DF/5d counterpart goes first in this ascension) need to detox their surroundings fully, including diet, routines, the people in their lives, work and family life, your belief system and mindset - basically everything you have come to know will undergo a level of review or total transformation. At that point, navigating even the hardest energy peaks from within the collective consciousness or individually, becomes less extreme and easier to handle.

The DF/5d/feminine energy role isn't to pursue others, but to align with soul (your inner Divine Masculine)

Generally speaking, as a feminine polarity being, you are not here to chase/pursue others, but yourself. Your internal masculine energies don't operate at their full strength if the foundation isn't balanced, as they will then take action from a wounded lower vibrational state. As a feminine being in particular, you really need to priotize tapping into your feminine first, being that balance, that state of peace of love from within, then execute in the external (the masculine arena) with much more authenticity, determination and impact. The Divine Feminine life path is one of self-reflection, spiritual ascension, of receptivity and self-love. Expressing, being creative and manifesting the life of your dreams from the inside and out. Not one of neediness, clinginess and self-pity, or chasing breadcrumbs. The masculine polarity in its healthy state is here as a shell to protect the feminine polarity from negative toxic 3d influences, and to lead the connection in the realm of mind/3d. The feminine polarity leads the energy in the 5th dimension of soul at the creator level, and so the DF/5d counterpart is to protect the DM from toxicity, energetically speaking, since anything that enters the feminine polarity's conscious mind can end up manifesting into reality through seeping into the subconscious. The subconscious is your counterpart's energetic territory, mutually speaking.

The feminine polarity is on a mission to pursue becoming the embodiment of the 5th dimension of soul / unity consciousness. For Monadics, the feminine polarity's soul consciousness blueprint from the 5th dimension is the same fundamental vibration that are translated from the composite/shared Monadic dimensions. This vibration is what the masculine polarity follows at the deepest levels of soul. When this vibration isn't lit up by the feminine polarity (who is here to embody it), the masculine focuses on him/herself from the perspective of ego (the 3rd dimension). The masculine polarity's ego self is aimed at him/herself, and is polarized away from the feminine polarity's soul consciousness energy. The polarized soul energy of the masculine polarity is usually not seen within the feminine polarity (as the feminine is the original non-polarized vibration), but the soul/over-soul energy of the feminine polarity is written into the masculine polarity's deepest energy DNA and  dare I say it... actually determines their true life paths. Obviously, anyone can fight their truths as much as they want, but that's not why we are incarnated as Monadic or Split Souls. It's to do the soul/mind work, while we're here.

For the feminine polarity, the shared emotional body / heart chakra energy is particularly attractive about the masculine polarity. The feminine polarity is naturally more emotionally conscious due to the greater feminine energies and receptive qualities, so more easily embrace and express these emotions. As the emotional body is shared, the emotional origin can be from either counterpart or them both and they both feel the same deeper emotional vibrations in their "heart". When combined, they aim directly at masculine polarity's soul polarity, and the masculine polarity is portrayed like an emotional pedestal. In this case, the masculine emotionally aims for his/her own polarized soul frequency as well, which is the inverted version of the original over-soul frequency. The only way to "bypass" this intense mind / emotional focus on the masculine polarity's frequency, and to stabilize the energy flow, since this mind spin creates imbalance in the connection, is to focus more or less entirely on your Self ie. Soul / Monad. Be who you truly are ~ your soul, fall in love with yourself, nourish and care for yourself and pursue your soul mission with authenticity and genuine passion. The anchoring of the inner union of the DF/5d counterpart really makes anything possible for the pair as the connection balances out as a result. When that happens, the DM/3d counterpart will start to awaken as well, although this revolves more around the mind landscape / their 3d circumstances, it can create the growth for the masculine counterpart to realize and embody her/his role in the bigger picture.

Lastly, keep in mind, the best sign of balanced energy flow is actually "yourself". Your counterpart helps you see the things you may not have seen for yourself yet. Learn to observe your mind, thoughts and emotions, and don't let them overwhelm or overpower you. Accept and live by the fact that your soul is in charge of everything, and let it be in charge, flow with the necessary changes in your life that happen as a result of embodying a higher vibration, as your soul knows best what's truly good for you, and your counterpart (which is also you, as you share the same soul/over-soul).

Written by Philip Toxværd Læssøe